What are Socials?
- Adoptees of Chicago describe a social as a 2-4 hour social event where adoptees gather to go new places and try new things. Whether it’s gathering at a restaurant, the botanical gardens, laser tag, or a BBQ, we plan our socials with the goal of bringing the adoptee community together in a casual environment! While individuals at socials can incorporate adoption-related dialogue, socials are also a place to just meet, network, and enjoy each other’s company.
- Activities for socials will typically be posted at least 3-4 months in advance, so mark your calendars!
Which Social should I attend?
We have two types of Socials:
- Teen Socials (Ages 13-17)
- Young Adult Socials (Ages 18 - 30)
Is there a membership fee to join?
Adoptees of Chicago does not have an annual membership fee. Most Socials will cost less than $15 as we want to keep socials as accessible as possible for all attendees. In the event that an attendee cannot cover the cost, please contact us in advance. We plan on having future fundraising opportunities to help cover the costs of attendees.
Last minute change of plans to a Social you RSVP'd for?
We understand, but please follow up and let us know as soon as possible if:
- Your plans change and you will not be able to attend the Social, so we do not wait for you
- You are going to be late and want to meet the group at another location at a different time
- Email Us!
Can a non-adopted friend/partner/sibling, etc. attend Socials?
Unfortunately, we ask that only adoptees attend the Socials unless it is stated in the event description. There will be some annual events where others are allowed to attend; however, we want to keep the space as adoptee-centric as possible. We want Adoptees of Chicago Socials to be a community where adoptees can connect with each other without feeling pressured by others. We thank you for your understanding and will let you know when others are welcome to join us!
Can parents come?
While parents are welcome to meet us at the beginning and end of a Social, we ask that it remains an adoptee-only space. For the teen group, we will give very detailed directions and instructions so parents are aware of where we are at all times. In regards to safety, adoptees should stay in contact with their parents throughout the Social and give them updates on their whereabouts. There will be some annual Socials where parents are allowed to attend; however, we want to keep the space as adoptee-centric as possible. We love meeting parents and look forward to meeting you at future Socials!
Can I help out at Socials?
Absolutely! Volunteers are always welcome! If you are an adoptee older than 30 years of age and would like to help out, contact us or reach out to one of our coordinators!
What's our alcohol policy?
If our Social is hosted at a venue that serves alcohol, people of age (21+) may consume it during our Social. Details will be noted in the Social description.
Is my information confidential?
Yes, Adoptees of Chicago Socials are confidential. What is discussed at an adoptee Social and on our private social media groups stays within the AOC community. Your information that you submit to attend a Social event is only shared with the Adoptees of Chicago leaders for coordinating purposes. The only exception is when someone poses a threat to themselves or others, in which we are obligated to report.
Is Adoptees of Chicago a religious group?
No, Adoptees of Chicago is not a religious group nor are we affiliated with any religious organization. We expect all attendees to respect each other’s views and also refrain from imposing beliefs on others. Adoptees of all backgrounds and religions are welcome.
Are Adoptees of Chicago Socials like group therapy?
No, we are not, but we are more than happy to lend an ear. We are not trained therapists and do not have the qualifications to run a group in that capacity; nor are our Socials set up in that way. However, we do provide many resources for adoptees to connect to certified professionals in the area
Do I have to discuss my adoption story at the Socials?
Absolutely not. Our Socials are not focused on adoption, but adoptee-centric conversations can arise naturally since we are all adoptees. You don’t have to talk about anything that makes you uncomfortable. The conversation is always open for however you’d like to express yourself!
What if my adoption story isn't a "happy story"? Can I still come to Socials?
Absolutely. It is important that we recognize that every adoptee’s experience is unique. Every person can teach one another a lot through our stories. Your story is important and shouldn’t have to be “happy” in order to be heard.
Do you have a lot on your mind?
We’re here for you, but please be aware of everyone else’s feelings and time. Please be sure to include a content or trigger warning if your story contains sensitive topics.
What “serious” topics might we talk about at Socials?
One thing for certain is that we will never run out of things to discuss or talk about.
Here are some potential topics of conversation that could come up at a Social:
Although we may have serious conversations, explicit content will not be allowed.
Here are some potential topics of conversation that could come up at a Social:
- Your personal interests
- Adoption Activities, Socials, & Conferences
- Books, Articles, Poems, Blogs
- Current Events of Adoption
- Common issues for adoptees
- Adoption & Relationships
- Search & Reunion
- Trauma & Adoption
- Self-Love & How we view ourselves
- Abandonment & Rejection
- Racial Identity
- Talking to friends & family about adoption
- And more!
Although we may have serious conversations, explicit content will not be allowed.
